Individuality in a Relationship….

“I define love thus: The will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.” ― M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values, and Spiritual Growth.
This is the first meaningful and practical definition of love I came across more than 20 years back and I have tried hard to live by it.
This has also given me clarity in my thinking while deciding during the conflicts about my own individual preferences/choices as well as personality, with respect to the preferences/choices and personality of WE and US.
A person’s “Individuality” should be in harmony with the “togetherness” of his/her relationships. And it takes different shapes depending on relationship – the Individuality is very different in Parent-Child relationship, Individuality is very different in Friendship relationship, Individuality is very different in Teacher-Student relationship, Individuality is very different in Office-Colleague relationship, Individuality is very different in a love relationship and Individuality is very different in a Marriage relationship.
The question is – do you understand these relationships? Do you know how you manage your “Individuality” in these contexts? Are you matured enough to see “Interdependence” is more divine than “Independence”.
Human beings have evolved far more because we have the understanding of this interdependence. We have the emotional strength for “being together” against all odds. If we had focussed on being “individualistic”, we wouldn’t have been here as a race.
“The Will to extend…” cannot be demanded. One can give his/her will to other person voluntarily to provide complete support to nourish other person’s growth but unfortunately cannot demand for the same in tern from the other person.  In a true relationship, there are on negotiations.
In a relationship, both people extending complete support to each other OR not extending their will to support each other are just the same. One is completely harmonious and other is not, but both parties are in sync. The painful relationships are those where one person completely extends his/her will to support the other person and carries on daily life in a truly “interdependence” mode. But the second person confines self-will to cover just his/her individual interests in a ‘independence’ mode.
Those people, who live in “Interdependence” mode in a “independent” relationship, are completely miserable.
And remember – nobody is judging anybody. Everybody is right from where they stand and how they see things. That’s where what Dr. Scott Peck says is more meaningful. “The will to extend one’s self to nurture …”.

Work, Society and Why am I an Entrepreneur?

“ಕಾಯಕವೇ ಕೈಲಾಸ” – ಶ್ರೀ ಬಸವೇಶ್ವರ

(“Doing one’s work honestly is like being in Shiva’s abode” – Shri Basaveshwara)

Every kid in Karnataka will hear/read/is thought the above single line philosophy from very early. Growing up in parts of North Karnataka this was engrained in my head even before I could understand what WORK was. Teachers, Parents and their friends, elderly visitors to the house, neighbourhood uncles/aunts – everybody quotes this to make the kids do things that they don’t want to do – particularly homework and housework. This philosophical foundation of Basaveshwara created a social revolutions in the 12th century by giving a religious connection/understanding to the hardships of one’s Work and Duty.

What I learnt in my childhood has stayed with me and assured me that I was not wasting my time when I put in those long long hours in my pre-college/college days and at work after that.  Particularly when I was running from 2nd Ave to 3rd Ave on Union Street at 10:55pm to catch the last bus to Bellevue in those cold rainy nights in Seattle after 14-15hours of work. There have been many more tough phases of life with respect to work, but I have sailed through them well.

Somewhere along the way, I put my hands on Kahlil Gibran’s “The Prophet”. These were pre-cell phone and internet days and most of my Sunday mornings in the US were spent in Barnes & Nobel or Borders.  The Prophet is phenomenal and monumental and the simplicity and the contextual expressions were just awesome. Along with everything else in that book, I loved what he says about Work.

Refer to a few gems from his words (you can refer here for his complete writing on Work) –

“You work that you may keep pace with the earth and the soul of the earth.”

“When you work you are a flute through whose heart the whispering of the hours turns to music.”

“And I say that life is indeed darkness save when there is urge,
And all urge is blind save when there is knowledge,
And all knowledge is vain save when there is work,
And all work is empty save when there is love;
And when you work with love you bind yourself to yourself, and to one another, and to God.”

“And what is it to work with love?
It is to weave the cloth with threads drawn from your heart,
even as if your beloved were to wear that cloth.”

And the best is – “Work is love made visible.”

This is so true and completely complements what I was brainwashed (in a good way of course) in the childhood that “Work is Worship”.

At the same time I heard one more context to work. And this was from Narayana Murthy of Infosys and this was before 2000’s. I don’t remember the specific context or the exact phrase, but what I remember goes something like this – adults spend most of their time in offices and with their colleagues. Its Organisation’s responsibility to make this entire experience better for the Employees so that when they go back home to their family and loved ones, they do not carry the stress and tension with them. Otherwise, they are not nice to their loved ones – they are moody, snappy or unsympathetic. This creates unhappy families and in-tern builds unhappy societies.

Murthy of 90’s was really awesome and very inspirational. I still remember the 20+ min speech he gave when 13 of us joined Infosys on 10-May-1993 and it still guides me in most of my decisions. He single handedly motivated the entire generation to work hard and make a difference to the society in building the “India” brand different from “land of snake charmers and elephant riders” along with his entire team.

He made us believe that we could change the world and build the future of India by making a difference to the Customers world wide.  He had a dream and vision, and we had energy and enthusiasm, and the combination created ripple effects and heavily influenced India narrative from that point onwards. Its a different matter that Infosys fell into the ‘predictability’ trap after 2000, and walked away from those basic qualities of risk taking which made it different in the first place.

And most recent reference to work came a couple of days back. I downloaded fresh episodes of HBR Podcasts and happened to listen to Gerath Jones’ “Simple Rules for Creating Great Places to Work”  (Episode# 494) promoting his new book Why Should Anyone Work Here?.  Listening to him talk about authenticity, trust and summarising at the end – “without good work, we can not have good society” – connected all the dots in my mind and provided the answer to the “WHY” (from Simon Sinek’s “Golden Circle” theory) of Employee Experts.

I have worked in large Organisations across the globe and very well understand how hard it is to be an Employee – to manage all the processes, escalations, updates, emails, status reports, people, politics, tasks, Customers, vendors, partners and few other things using as many different technology tools. Apart from Infosys in late 1990’s and Dell in early 2000’s, its been quite a challenge for me to find a Good Work Place. More often, we find the Technology and Processes significantly contribute to the not-so-good work place.

Technological limitations during early days of automation in 1980’s and the lack of innovation thereafter, are the reasons for the difficult work place environment. Traditional/legacy ERPs are focused on Departmental/Functional automation and their technical, functional and process architectures are centred around the Admin user as they were the only users of the automation efforts early on. This has driven the entire Enterprise Technology and Process architecture inward looking – focused on each process owner.

This results in a regular Employee using 10-15 different systems to get his/her work done in the Organisation creating a lot of frustration and headache for Employee as a user.  (a quick read on the beginnings and relevance of legacy technology and process architecture to current enterprise context).

This is the context in which I turned an Entrepreneur 4.5 years back and co-founded Employee Experts along with Maragathavalli Inbamuthiah. We reimagined Enterprise operations centred on an Employee and built all of Unified Talent Management, Employee Operations, Employee Service, Employee Engagement of an Enterprise on the same Singular platform.

We want to create better Experiences for Employees in all their Enterprise touch points.

No 10+ Systems. No Interfaces. No Different UIs. No Data Latencies. No Frustration. Its a single touch work tool inter-connecting Employees, Managers, HR team – all within the Organisation, with Candidates, Placement Agencies, Background Verification Agencies, Travel Agents, Customers and whoever else may be part of the Enterprise eco-system. This is our vision of Future Work Place tool.

We want to create HAPPY EMPLOYEES.

We want to enable our Customers build Good Work Places using Technology.

As an extension, we want to partner with our Customers to create Happier Families and Societies.

We have a very huge goal in front of us – to change the way Organizations function. To look at operations from end-user, Employee, perspective and not from Departments/Functions point-of-view. To shift the focus from process adherence to service quality and outcome measurements.

Its early days for us and the excitement so far among our Customers and the end-users, their Employees, is very motivating for us. They prove to us that we are on the right track in creating a Digital Workplace for the Future of Work.











Enterprise Technology – Beginnings and Relevance

I have been doing it for more than 22years now – consulting, designing, building, re-engineering, testing, maintaining and everything else in the Enterprise software space. As part of this journey, I got opportunities to work for some great global Organisations and some not so great ones. I have enjoyed the benefits of fast changing technology since early 90’s and seen the way the workplace has changed.

Two things to highlight –

  1. There is not much Process Re-architecture over the decades within the Enterprise.
  2. As a natural extension, all Enterprise technology innovations/adoptions have been incremental.

Here I am talking about the automation focusing on Employee Operations. And not Communications; Email in the early part of 1990’s and Mobile/Socials tools in 2010’s have been a big boost to communication processes in general.

Let’s look at the Enterprise technology context in the early 1980’s when the first seeds of automation started.

  • The personal computers were costly and complex
  • Only 1 or 2 people in each Departments had access to them
  • These “Admin” users were the super talented early digital adopters

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The need and focus of early stage automation was to improve the quality and speed of critical resources in a department.  Most Business processes were re-drawn to go through these “Computers” and “Admins”.

As the time passed – there were more “Admin” people with Computers in the Organizations and more point solutions were identified and built. And in parallel, the original point solutions evolved to include some of the peripheral tasks into the original scope.

The result of these initial steps were – Departmental or Functional focused ERPs, the ones we see today in the Enterprise technology space – HR ERP, Finance ERP, Sales CRM, Travel ERP and a host of other ERPs sprang up in the Enterprise space. Please note – these were all focused on specific functions within departments to be used mainly by the Admin users.

The database structures, technology architecture, workflow design, notification engine, User Interface, MIS reports and everything else that goes into a product was done with the confined scope of “Admin” users of a Department.

When Employee Self Service, Manager Self Service, Performance management and a few other Employee driven automation needs came up, the old/new vendors leveraged the same architectural aspects to extend the new functions – but again specific to one purpose.

In the last 2 years or so, the context of Enterprise Technology is changing – its purpose, relevance and type of users.

  • almost every Employee has a Computer and also a more advanced and powerful personal device which he/she uses more often and is more comfortable with.
  • From an overall business perspective, involvement of all the stakeholders is necessary to achieve faster communication and decision making
  • Effective collaboration needs boundary-less connections – cross functional AND/OR cross Organizational
  • Changing workforce needs easy access with engaging User Interface across all devices, particularly personal ones

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Even with these big changes that are happening in the consumer technology world, the Enterprise technology vendors and the decision makers within the Organizations tend to look at incremental innovation based on a different set of parameters – to protect the investments, to manage the existing IT eco system, ability to handle the quantum of change from a support perspective – and continue to add more and more departmental focused (legacy architecture) ERPs with incremental UI changes and desperately hope that they will work in the current context.

But the big QUESTION is – will the legacy architected Departmental focused, Process oriented ERPs (even with the new UI) meet the EXPECTATIONS and NEEDS of the current workforce?

Has the time come to throw away the legacy architectures and reimagine the Enterprise Technology framework centered on Employee? We surely think so.

its always a new beginning….

Its always a new beginning……

new-beginningsThis is the first thing and the best thing I remember seeing in the note book of a friend many years back sitting in the morning bus traveling to the office together. For an ordinary boy who had grown up in a small town with very little exposure, but tons of expectations from life – that sentence became a mantra.

Till then, I was a crazy concatenation of positiveness and passiveness, high energy mixed with inhibitions, liberal ideas mushrooming in the dampness of conformity mindset….One thing was certain, though it was completely unclear till that point of time, that I had to do something big in my life. It was a natural progression for me given what my father had done in his life – coming out of his house when he was 10 years of age because he didn’t want to be daily wage worker for rest of his life and successfully struggled for the next 70 years to make a better life for his own family, his siblings and many extended families. Throughout his life he kept aspiring for far better things for himself and his family, though life kept trying to box him up at every step.

I didn’t know all this at that point of time, and that’s the reason for my confusion between the certainty of breaking out of the box life was pushing me towards and unclearness of how and whats of that un-breaking part. My father probably would have gone through the same confusion when he was trying to breakout, but I don’t think he ever figured it out. And the confusion was there for him till the end – oscillating between two very different worlds.

I didn’t want to go through my life like that. And that’s when I saw this small sentence on the notebook of my friend….at that moment I realized that I was scared of doing new things and letting go of the things I knew and I was comfortable/familiar with.  This was the source of the confusion – between my thoughts and actions.

When you treat everything as a new beginning in life, then there is nothing to be uncertain about, nothing to be scared about… the most, one has to be ready to deal with the hard-work and just needs patience to understand the meaning of the new beginning. Most importantly curiosity to explore the new beginning to see where it leads to.

The best part about it is that its not like being reborn and starting all over again. The painful struggle of going through the process of making same/similar mistakes again will definitely kill any spirited souls. Contrary to that, new-beginnings are sweet deals in life- you get to keep all the treasures (experiences, lessons learnt, relationships built, memories, etc ) and you get to start afresh.

Nature is the best example of new beginnings and that’s the reason its a continuum  and never takes any incident as a big event to stop its movement. (well, we humans may be testing the limits of that process with all our mindlessness!)

The realization I had from that one line that day removed the confusion in my mind. The combination of Clarity and Certainty has given me the Confidence to  explore new beginnings in my life, and in doing so I have learnt a lot of new things, met some great people, achieved a few high goals in context of my life and have plenty of stories to tell my children and team. It also has given me an opportunity to accept myself in totality – good, bad, smart, ugly, pleasant, irritating, genuine, unbearable……and any other combination of characteristics.

All my failures, hardships and sacrifices are worth the fruits of the new beginnings.

And I am grateful to that friend who has become a permanent partner in all of those new beginnings since that point of time…

This writing is one more such new beginning.